Should You Do a First Look? Pros, Cons, and Timeline Tips

As an Alabama wedding planner, one question I get asked all the time is: “Should you do a first look?” And honestly—there’s no one-size-fits-all answer.

The first look has become more popular over the last decade, but it’s still deeply personal. Whether you’re dreaming of that traditional moment down the aisle or considering a more private, intimate first look, my goal is always the same: help you make a decision that reflects your priorities and your vision for the day.

So, let’s walk through the pros, cons, and a few timeline tips to help you decide what’s right for you.

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What Is a First Look, Anyway?

A first look is when the couple sees each other before the ceremony—usually in a quiet, private moment captured by the photographer and videographer. It can be as simple or styled as you’d like and often leads right into your portrait session.

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The Pros of Doing a First Look

1. More Time for Photos

One of the biggest benefits is logistical: a first look allows you to take the majority of your portraits before the ceremony. That means wedding party photos, couple portraits, and sometimes even family formals can be done early—giving you more time to enjoy your celebration afterward.

2. Enjoy More of Your Cocktail Hour & Reception

Because many of the “must-have” photos are already done, you can actually attend your cocktail hour, mingle with guests, and enjoy the food and drinks you carefully selected.

3. Eases Nerves

If either of you tends to feel anxious in the spotlight, a first look can be a calming, grounding moment. Seeing your partner before the ceremony can help you both feel more relaxed and present.

4. A Private, Emotional Moment

Weddings can move fast. A first look gives you a rare pause—to slow down, hold hands, exchange a few words, and soak it all in together before the day really takes off.

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The Cons of a First Look

1. It Breaks Tradition

For many couples, there’s something incredibly meaningful about seeing each other for the first time at the ceremony. If you’ve always imagined that aisle moment being your first look, then it’s okay to stick with that vision.

2. Earlier Start Time

Doing a first look means more things need to happen earlier in the day—like hair, makeup, and getting dressed. If you’re not a morning person or have a tight schedule, this might feel like a rush.

3. Can Feel Less “Big Reveal”

If that dramatic first glance is a priority for you, doing it privately beforehand might shift the emotional energy. But that doesn’t mean it won’t be special—it’s just a different kind of special.

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Timeline Tips: First Look vs. No First Look

Here’s how each choice typically impacts your timeline:

✨ With a First Look

• Photography starts ~3 hours before ceremony
• Couple portraits and wedding party photos happen pre-ceremony
• Ceremony → Cocktail hour → Go enjoy it!
• Sunset photos or a few newlywed portraits after dinner if desired

💍 Without a First Look

• Photography starts closer to the ceremony
• Couple, family, and wedding party portraits happen after ceremony
• Cocktail hour is used for photos, not mingling
• You’ll enter the reception after all photos are complete

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So, Should You Do a First Look?

The truth? You can’t make the wrong decision—as long as it aligns with your priorities.

If you want a slow, peaceful morning with a quiet moment together, a first look might be perfect. If you’ve dreamed forever about locking eyes for the first time down the aisle in front of everyone, that’s just as valid. My job as your planner is to help make either option smooth, beautiful, and completely you.

Whatever you choose, we’ll build a timeline that honors your vision and keeps your day running seamlessly. Contact me here to get started on your wedding planning!